What does it take for a marriage to not just survive the ups and downs, but become the jet fuel for your God-given purpose? In this heartfelt episode of Leveraging Success, host Jeff Gerhardt sits down with his wife Heather to share a candid, behind-the-scenes look at their 30+ years of marriage—from hilarious Valentine’s Day mishaps to navigating stress, growth, and kingdom impact.
Jeff and Heather reflect on their origin story, the evolution of their relationship through different seasons, and how shared ministry, humor, and hospitality have strengthened their bond. They dive into practical wisdom for handling tough times, prioritizing dreams over daily routines, and viewing marriage as a covenant that reflects Christ’s sacrificial love—offering insights for couples at any stage.
This episode is filled with laughter, vulnerability, and actionable advice for building a thriving marriage that launches you forward in leadership, family, and faith.
In This Episode:
[00:00] Episode Intro & Valentine’s Day Teaser
[02:30] Hilarious Valentine’s Fail at Loves Truck Stop
[07:00] Origin Story: How We Met & Early Dates
[11:45] Marriage as Jet Fuel for Purpose & Calling
[15:20] Pre-Master’s Program Life vs. Post-Transformation
[20:10] Keys to Staying Together: Covenant, No ‘D’ Word, Shared Ministry
[25:40] How Marriage Shapes Leadership & Hospitality
[30:15] Navigating Stress: Scripture, Prayer, & Emotional Matching
[35:50] Hardest Seasons & Lessons on Sacrifice
[40:30] Best Marriage Advice: Put God First, Dream Together
[44:00] Fun Surprise: Favorite Child Reveal & Closing Laughs
[46:30] Priority Gathering Promo & Episode Wrap-Up
Notable Quotes
“Marriage is either going to slow you down or launch you forward.” – Jeff Gerhardt
“Your spouse is either going to be a boat anchor for your calling or they’re going to be jet fuel.” – Jeff Gerhardt
“Marriage was not a contract, it was a covenant and we took that seriously… there’s no exit plan.” – Heather Gerhardt
“The grass is really not greener on the other side; it really is greener where you water it.” – Heather Gerhardt
“Put God first in your marriage… that means denying yourself, taking up your cross, following Jesus, and loving like Him.” – Heather Gerhardt
“Have a dream and keep living into it… dream maintenance is one of the themes for this year.” – Jeff Gerhardt
Our Guest
Heather Gerhardt is Jeff’s wife of over 30 years, a dedicated mother of four, and a passionate mentor to women in faith and marriage. With a background in music ministry and hospitality, she focuses on pouring into couples through godly wisdom, humor, and intentional living, helping them build legacies that honor Christ.
Resources & Links
Jeff Gerhardt
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffgerhardt/
Heather Gerhardt
https://priorityliving.org/bio-heather-gerhardt/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-gerhardt-18004546/
Resources
Life Balance Assessment – https://lba.priorityliving.org/
Leveraging Success Podcast – https://www.leveragingsuccesspodcast.com
Hearing God by Dallas Willard – https://a.co/d/00VCc0LP
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